I am currently trying to offer comments on a family situation in which one of the parents has seriously upset a 'professional'.

 Now in the 'real world' if either experts or ordinary people were to assess what qualities made for a good parent, the item 'being obsequious to people trying to meddle in your life' would probably not rate very highly.

But in the 'family justice system' it has to be given triple stars as the most important thing. The surest way to lose  your children is to treat one of the people with power over them in a way that they think is discourteous or disrespectful. They will punish you for it, by removing your children's relationship with you.

One of the advantages of having advice and support is to know how to speak their language and mimic their conduct. For instance, there is a language which should be called 'courtspeak'. For example you don't say

'M'Lud, you are talking bullshit', you say 'There could be some reservations about that point of view, Sir'

If you are of a literary bent, study the classic speeches which have turned opinions around, for example Mark Anthony's at the funeral of Julius Caesar, or the future Richard III getting Queen Anne (was it?) to agree to marry him right over the corpse of her husband he had just murdered. Note that they start with cringe-making grovelling towards the audience that the object is to pull wool over the eyes of.